Dear Mistress Maeve,
I am hoping you can help me with something that has recently come up with my boyfriend. A couple times while we were having sex, he would say things like, Tell me what to do or What do you want me to do? I thought he was just being polite and encouraging me to ask for what I wanted. As it turns out, he was actually asking me to command him. The other night, he shared with me that he fantasizes about me bossing him around in bed. I am open to trying it, but I dont really know where to start. I think I could get over my stage fright if you could give me some beginners tips!
Commander in Briefs
Kudos to your man for sharing his fantasies with you its not always easy to admit to our desires. Turning up the dominance doesnt have to be a big production corsets, riding crops and thigh-high boots are optional (but encouraged). Instead, start small. The next time things are heating up between you, command him to strip off every piece of your clothing, slowly (with his teeth, if you so desire). By the time hes done disrobing you, hell be putty in your hands. The rest is up to you pick your most favorite way to get off and make him give it to you. Be sure to tell him that he wont be receiving any pleasure until he has fully satisfied you.
If your guy likes being submissive, he may really enjoy asking your permission to orgasm. When its his turn to come, tell him he has to ask you nicely if he can climax. When you sense him getting close, remind him of his task. When he asks, make him say please a couple times before giving him the go-ahead.
As long as both partners are into it, dominance and submission are incredibly hot tools to keep in your tools chest. After your first try at bossing him around, have a recap conversation ask him what worked for him and what could be better. And make sure you like it, too. Whatever you do in bed should turn you on as much as it does him.
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