Dear Mistress Maeve,
My boyfriend and I are thinking about having a threesome (I've fooled around with other women, but I've never had a three-way). I'd been pretty gung-ho about the idea until a friend of mine shared her threesome experience. She says she and her ex-boyfriend tried a three-way, and she felt left out. It was like her boyfriend was just doing a threesome so he could "legally" get away with sleeping with another woman. Now, I don't think my boyfriend is like that, but it did get me thinking - how do you make sure everyone is having a good time? I can imagine some awkward moments if one person is left out of the action.
Three's Awkward, Two's a Bore
A friend of mine once said, "Having a threesome is like trying to shower with someone else - somebody is always cold." A brilliant simile, for sure, but I have to disagree wholeheartedly. With so many positions, options and sets of genitalia, there's plenty of action to go around. Do your research; watch three-way porn and make notes of your favorite positions. Don't overplan your threesome, but have some ideas in case you need to take charge of any awkward moments.
Most importantly, talk to your partner before jumping in with six feet. Share your friend's story with him, and let him know you don't want either of you to feel left out. It's of the utmost importance that you share your thoughts, concerns and ideas before bedding down with a third partner. Threesomes can bring up unexpected emotions, from deep-seated lust to jealousy to sadness. Be sure your relationship is strong enough to extinguish this potential three-alarm fire before you light the match.