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Published February 10, 2010 at 12:27 p.m.
Dear Mistress,
I hit the bars last weekend and met this girl. We hung out for the better part of the night, drinking and playing pool. When she and her friends were leaving, I asked for her number. She ended up writing down her email address. WTF? I swear I didn't do anything to deserve it. I was a total gentleman and didn't even spill any beer on my shirt. I thought she was into me, so what's with the cyber brush-off?
Signed,
Cyber Crushed
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Dear Cyber Crushed,
Stop being such a neophyte. We live in a world where the phone is just one of many ways to communicate with a possible mate. Whether she asked you to call, text, Facebook, Twitter or IM her, it sounds like she wanted to get to know you better, and you're blowing it by letting so much time go by.
If you could put your ego aside for a moment, you might see that this girl was actually trying to be smart. In this day and age, a girl can't be too careful - an email address is far less personal than a phone number. Or she could have a limited phone plan and doesn't want to use up her minutes on a guy who could turn out to be a dud.
Write her an email. Be charming and witty, and ask her out. Oh, and be sure to spell check - I knew a woman who used to give out her email address to weed out all the dummies.
TTYL,
MM
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Mistress Maeve
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Mistress Maeve wrote a weekly advice column on love and lust from September 2007 until January 2014.
Mistress Maeve wrote a weekly advice column on love and lust from September 2007 until January 2014.
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