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A Marked Woman 

Mistress Maeve: Your guide to love and lust...

Dear Mistress,

Recently during sex, my husband began biting and sucking on my neck. I discovered it was a huge turn-on for me, the harder the better. The sex was fantastic, but it left me with the bruises to prove it! Trying to cover up hickeys may have been an adolescent rite of passage, but it’s not something I’m eager to explain to the boss or the kids. It’s getting too hot for turtlenecks, and I’m afraid I’ll have to give up this new pleasure if I can’t figure out a way to enjoy it discreetly. Is there any hope?


A Marked Woman

Dear Marked Woman,

I agree — while hickeys were a badass sign of teenage rebellion, they’re not as cool on adults with jobs and families. Many internet sources claim to have the remedy for your ravaged capillaries, suggesting everything from applying toothpaste to the bruise to rubbing it out with a coin. However, as we all know, nothing but time — and some concealer and a neckerchief — can help a hickey.

That said, you don’t have to give up your new turn-on completely. Think about what you liked about receiving the hickey. Was it the pleasure mixed with pain? Was it the feeling of being dominated by your partner? Did it feel dangerous to be marked? Figure out which feeling you’re lusting after and adapt your play to include a less conspicuous way to achieve it.

In the meantime, your husband can still drive you into ecstasy with biting and sucking — just not on your neck or any other body part that your coworkers and kids might see. The next time you’re having sex, ask your hubby to mark you on the chest, torso or inner thigh — you will likely find the sensation just as scrumptious.

Bitingly yours,


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Mistress Maeve

Mistress Maeve

Mistress Maeve wrote a weekly advice column on love and lust from September 2007 until January 2014.


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