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Condom Curious 

Mistress Maeve: Your guide to love and lust...

Published October 5, 2011 at 10:02 a.m.

Dear Mistress Maeve,

Do condoms that are “ribbed for her pleasure” really work? My girlfriend says she can’t feel anything different when we use smooth versus ribbed. It seems like the ribs are too subtle to make a difference in the heat of the moment, but if they didn’t work, why would these condom companies make them?


Condom Curious

Dear Condom Curious,

Kudos to you for using condoms — and for caring enough about your girl’s pleasure to try textured ones. Condom pioneers developed ribbed and studded sheaths to counter the ever-present gripe that sex with condoms doesn’t feel as good as skin on skin. Textured condoms are generally bell shaped for a tighter fit on the base of the penis, leaving a bit more wiggle room at the top for added stimulation of its ultra-sensitive tip. You will find that most of these condoms created “for her pleasure” place the ribs where they are most likely to touch the G-spot. In some brands, ribs can also be found on the inside “for his pleasure” (along with a little lube to keep things moving smoothly).

We have all this condom technology — but does it really work? I think we know by now that pleasure is personal and unique to each individual; it can’t come mass produced in a box. While some women report heightened arousal from textured condoms, it’s not surprising that your woman feels nothing special. The important thing to note is that you gave it a try; exploration and experimentation are mandatory in keeping a sex life fun and healthy.

If your lady isn’t feeling the ribs, take it to the next level. Leading brands such as Trojan and Durex are now making condoms with vibrating rings to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse. I imagine that feels pretty good to the wearer, too.

Giving you a ribbing,


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Mistress Maeve

Mistress Maeve

Mistress Maeve wrote a weekly advice column on love and lust from September 2007 until January 2014.


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