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Re: “Vermont Sheriff Risks His Career by Hiring a Sex Offender

Since somebody played the "I am a victim myself & this guy is a monster" card, I guess I'll pull my own victim card.

I have no idea what happened to the guy who molested me, since I never told anybody, and thankfully we lost touch when I was 7. It worries me that he may have molested other kids because I never came forward... but it bothers me *almost* as much to imagine he himself is suffering abuse, if he's even alive. I can't stand how people call sexual abusers monsters, call for them to be executed, and think it's hilarious if they get raped in jail -- all in the name of avenging their victims, right? That makes me feel absolutely disgusting to imagine someone being hurt in my name.

I know I have mental issues that he caused, but I don't see the point throwing blame around. We're all victims. In fact, I take comfort knowing however messed up I turned out, he's more messed up by far. I pity people like Szad. He was abused, isolated, and filled with self-loathing, and he never had the support I had. He didn't get to escape his abuse as easily as I did.

He did a monstrous thing, and if his victim wants to hate him and think of him as a monster, then I wouldn't blame them at all for it. We all cope differently. But for god's sake, end the cycle of abuse. No child has ever recovered emotionally because their abuser was cut out of society and left to die. I want to believe abusers can recover, too. I don't know if Szad can be “fixed,” but I'd rather at least try compassion before throwing him into the fire.

Kudos to this article.

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Posted by Emzilly on 04/29/2016 at 9:26 PM

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