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Forlorn Fantasizer 

Mistress Maeve: Your guide to love and lust...

Published May 26, 2011 at 6:04 p.m.

Dear Mistress Maeve,

I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. We are a happy, healthy heterosexual couple, and I am extremely turned on by him. However, being a sexual woman, I sometimes fantasize about having sex with other women. When I watch porn (on occasion), I like watching girl-on-girl. I am so happy with my partner, so is it strange that I fantasize about fucking a hot girl?


Forlorn Fantasizer

Dear F.F.,

It is absolutely not strange that you fantasize about other women. In fact, it most likely makes you a better partner to your man. Indulging in vibrant, varied fantasies makes us more aware of our desires, paving the way for us to be more open and uninhibited with our partners. I was recently talking with a group of women who all agreed that watching gay male porn is a turn-on — and they certainly won’t be bringing that fantasy into reality anytime soon.

Embrace your fantasies — don’t judge them. Your willingness to fantasize outside the box (or inside the box, as it were) only means you’re a sexual being — not that you’re “strange” or that you don’t love your boyfriend. Of course, if you ever want to explore sex with women, that’s OK, too — just be open and honest with your partner before doing so.



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Mistress Maeve wrote a weekly advice column on love and lust from September 2007 until January 2014.


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