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I'm Looking for Love but Self-Conscious About Neuropathy 

Published September 4, 2019 at 10:00 a.m.

Dear Reverend,

I'm divorced, 67 and have neuropathy in my feet that makes me self-conscious about trying to find another woman for a relationship. How or where do I find someone? The dating sites are full of scammers and cost too much money.

Tingly Toes (male, 67)

Dear Tingly Toes,

I'm not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV, so I had to do a little web searching to find out what neuropathy is. And here's what I learned: Peripheral neuropathy is a common nerve problem that has many causes and symptoms, mainly pain, tingling or numbness in the hands or feet. It doesn't seem to be curable, but many treatment options are available. I assume that you've been seeing a doctor to manage the condition, but if you aren't getting the desired results, I recommend seeking another doctor or treatments that you haven't tried yet. Have you looked into CBD, massage or more homeopathic remedies? Getting your symptoms under control would help with the self-confidence.

As for how to find someone for a relationship, if I had the absolute answer for that, I'd run my own dating site and would be a zillionaire. I've never explored dating websites myself, so I understand your hesitation, but I've got friends who've used them and have had some luck meeting people. The sites just for seniors might be worth investigating if you haven't already: Silver Singles and Our Time, to name a couple. Why not try one out for a month or so?

Of course, you should check out the Seven Days personals in the paper and online. You might like the Love Letters section, where you can exchange good old-fashioned letters with people who interest you.

If the online thing is really not an option, you'll just have to get out and about in order to meet people. Take a class, join a book club, go to concerts, volunteer for a nonprofit. Do things that you enjoy, and you're bound to run into someone who shares those interests, probably when you least expect it. No matter what, you'll have fun while you're at it!

Good luck and God bless,

The Reverend

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