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Mistress Maeve: Your guide to love and lust...

Published February 6, 2013 at 12:28 p.m.

Dear Mistress,

I have been seeing someone for about 6 months, and it’s great in many ways, including the sex (best I’ve ever had). I find myself falling for him more and more, but unfortunately, there are things that will prevent us from being together long term. Regardless of how much I wish we could be together, we can’t. We talk about it often, but at what point should I walk away? A major part of me is concerned that I’ll never find sex this good again with a new mate. If something concrete doesn’t cause the end to a “relationship,” how do we both move on without thinking, What if?


No Future

Dear No Future,

I’m confused. Why can’t you be together? Is NASA sending you to live on Mars? Is he a CIA agent going deep undercover?

Barring the above, I can’t imagine why two people shouldn’t be together if they’re in love. More likely, you’re facing obstacles to being together, and one of you is balking. Is one of you married? Is one of you moving across the country? These are challenging circumstances, but these relationships can work out — so long as both people are on board.

So, who’s holding out? If you’re the one naysaying the future of your relationship, do him a favor and let him go now. Don’t drag his heart around if you’re not in it for the long haul. If he’s the one dishing out excuses for the future, sit him down and have some real talk. Let him know that he’s the best sex you’ve ever had and that you’re falling for him. Tell him that you’re willing to make it work, no matter what the circumstances. If he’s unwilling to commit, tell him not to let the door hit his ass on the way out. A doomed love affair may seem romantic now, but it can take an emotional toll later.



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Mistress Maeve

Mistress Maeve

Mistress Maeve wrote a weekly advice column on love and lust from September 2007 until January 2014.


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