Slip and Slide (Out) | Mistress Maeve | Seven Days | Vermont's Independent Voice

Seven Days needs your financial support!

Slip and Slide (Out) 

Mistress Maeve

Published December 10, 2008 at 2:09 p.m.

Dear Mistress,

I am in my forties, have given birth once and have been sexually active throughout most of my adult life. Twice in the past two years, younger men in their twenties have hit on me - and I had sex with one of them. His penis seemed large enough to me, but it slipped out a few times. Is it possible that I am too loose, given my experience level and childbirth? In your response to "Reluctant Archer" on November 26, you seemed to suggest that slippage is more a function of the male's thrusting than the looseness of the vagina?

I'd love to know what your advice is in this situation.


Please Don't Use My Name


Dear P.D.U.M.N,

Kudos to you, Madame Cougar, for reeling in men in their twenties!

Though some women swear they've experienced extreme vaginal stretching post-childbirth, most sources agree that the vagina eventually regains its muscle tone. And, unless you've been having sex with a man 10 times the size of John Holmes, you're probably not going to stretch your vagina through intercourse, either.

Most penis slippage is due to erratic thrusting or poor choice of position - every body is different, and couples should identify which sexual positions work best for intercourse. Plus, the young bucks you've been attracting may not be as sexually experienced as some of your past partners. I'm guessing it's their experience, not the size of your vagina, that's causing the slippage.

However, if you're not feeling as tight as you'd like, you can try doing some Kegel exercises. Just as lifting weights at the gym tones your limbs, working out your pelvic floor muscles can tighten and tone your vagina - and that can lead to more explosive orgasms for you. For more info on Kegel exercises, click here. Or, you can watch this video of a vulva puppet doing Kegels.

Clench and release,


Got something to say? Send a letter to the editor and we'll publish your feedback in print!

More By This Author

About The Author

Mistress Maeve

Mistress Maeve

Mistress Maeve wrote a weekly advice column on love and lust from September 2007 until January 2014.


Comments are closed.

Since 2014, Seven Days has allowed readers to comment on all stories posted on our website. While we’ve appreciated the suggestions and insights, the time has come to shut them down — at least temporarily.

While we champion free speech, facts are a matter of life and death during the coronavirus pandemic, and right now Seven Days is prioritizing the production of responsible journalism over moderating online debates between readers.

To criticize, correct or praise our reporting, please send us a letter to the editor. Or send us a tip. We’ll check it out and report the results.

Online comments may return when we have better tech tools for managing them. Thanks for reading.

Latest in Category

Keep up with us Seven Days a week!

Sign up for our fun and informative

All content © 2022 Da Capo Publishing, Inc. 255 So. Champlain St. Ste. 5, Burlington, VT 05401

Advertising Policy  |  Privacy Policy  |  Contact Us  |  About Us  |  Help
Website powered by Foundation