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1. I'm not wrong I remember being parts of lots of discussions about this - and it's an ongoing discussion the title "queer" does not erase the title "gay" or "lesbian". The difference between "queer" and "mister Sister" is that "queer" is an identity that Some
People choose to identify as, whereas "mister Sister" is not.
Not young 3.I grew up in rural NH and can remember clearly "f*cking queer" being used as a slur.
@bob - I hear that you don't like the word "Queer" which is fine- and it's not the same as the situation of which I am speaking. "Queer" is a term that has been reclaimed by a whole group of people who identify all over the spectrum- it's added along with "LGBTQ" as a seperate title- so you can identify as Queer and/or Gay and/or Bi and/or trans- it is used all over the place all over the world and "taking back" the word was part of a process. "Queer" is an actual identity- "Mister Sister" has not gone under the same process - and everyday, trans people are being killed and having their rights stripped away. They have not reclaimed "mister sister" and Gay Men don't get to reclaim the word for them
Why the term Mister Sister is problematic.
We get and appreciate taking back of hurtful language. However, that is not whats happening here. While cis gay men and drag queens may use the term as an endearment to each other, that is not something that happens in the trans community. If a transperson is called Mister Sister its typically to be hurtful and/or used to misgender someone. It is the same as referring to a transperson as a he-she or she-male its just not cool.
Language matters. Trans folks have been working for a long time to be included in the LGBTQ community and have a long history of being dismissed and abused within that community. If language feels petty to you, think about the worst thing someone could call youand then imagine a person, who you thought was your comrade, calling you that AND telling you that "you give words too much power, thats what I am calling you from now on".
Imagine a white person starting a bar to bring all races together and calling it Cracker Negro, and saying that they are taking the word back.
Language cannot be reclaimed by the people who it is not being used against- and when language is reclaimed, its a process amongst the marginalized population, not a decision thats made by one person, especially not one person who is part of the population that is doing the oppression.
It doesnt matter if your best friend is trans, if your mom is trans, if your kid is trans if your are cisgender you dont get to decide if the term Mister Sister is offensive and when you attack or dismiss the people who are offended by it, you become the oppressor.