Dear Reverend,
I don’t have a big family. It’s just me, my son, his wife and two grandkids. They usually come to my house for Thanksgiving, but this year they’re traveling to be with my daughter-in-law’s family. They invited me to go with them, but it’s too far and doesn’t work with my schedule. I’m a little sad because I’ve never been alone on Thanksgiving, but I know I’ll be OK. I just need some advice on what to do with myself.
Allie Lone (woman, 61)
Dear Allie Lone,
Flying solo on Thanksgiving doesn’t have to be a bummer. Having the day to yourself means less stress, less mess and the world is your oyster dressing! Since you don’t have to worry about anyone else’s needs, you can pick your own adventure.
You can take the cozy route and make the day all about self-care. Wake up late. Have a home spa day. Watch your favorite movies, eat snacks and just relax.
If you love to cook, make something extravagant. Just because you’re the only one eating doesn’t mean you can’t go all out. It doesn’t need to be the traditional fare — nobody will miss the turkey but you. Have a hankering for Italian? Go for it.
Lots of restaurants stay open on Thanksgiving, so if cooking isn’t your bag, order in. Set a fancy table for one and enjoy!
If you would rather be with people, check in with friends. Maybe someone you know also doesn’t have plans and you can celebrate together. You might even get yourself invited to dinner at somebody else’s house. I always host Thanksgiving, and if I hear about a pal with nowhere to go, there’s always enough food and room to add a chair at the table.
You could opt to give back to the community. Look for a local food bank or shelter that needs volunteers on Thanksgiving Day. It may be just a couple of hours of your time, but you’ll feel great about helping others.
However you spend your day, make sure to have a virtual meetup with your family at some point. A FaceTime call before the big meal or with dessert will make you feel like part of the party, even from far away.
And remember: Thanksgiving doesn’t have to only happen on a Thursday in November. Pick a day when your family is back in town to host them for a big ol’ feast and fun.
Good luck and God bless,
The Reverend
This article appears in Winter Preview • 2026.
