I’m Inheriting My Aunt’s Cat. How Do I Manage the Transition?

Dear Reverend,

My aunt is terminally ill, and I’ve promised to take care of her cat after she passes. He’s 10 years old and has been allowed to go outside his whole life. I don’t have any cats currently, but when I did, I always kept them inside. So I plan on doing that when he lives with me. I’m a little worried about transitioning him to indoor living, and I’m wondering if I should talk to my aunt about it while I still can.

Faye Lines (woman, 57)

Dear Faye Lines,

Your aunt is nearing the end of her life (my condolences), so it may be best not to give her any reason to worry about the future care of her pet. I’m sure she’s very relieved that he’ll be going to a good home, and that’s what matters most. But she knows her cat better than anyone, and you know your aunt better than I do, so use your best judgment.

I imagine you’ve already gotten the lowdown on the food he eats, his vet and all that nitty-gritty. If your aunt is feeling up for conversation, it can’t hurt to get more details. Ask her about his favorite toys and how he likes to play. Does he have any goofy quirks that only she knows? Talking about her best bud is a great way to gather information and keep her mind on happy things.

Transitioning a free-roaming cat to a strictly indoor life can be frustrating, but it’s absolutely possible. Since you’ve had indoor cats in the past, you know how to enrich their lives with playtime, things to climb and scratch, and window views. You may want to try harness training or, if possible, adding a catio to your house. Both are great options for safe outdoor time.

This cat will be coming to you with the stress of having lost his person and home. Be sure to bring a blanket or clothing that belonged to your aunt — familiar smells can help a cat feel comfortable. You can find all sorts of helpful information online, but I’d recommend starting with cat behaviorist Jackson Galaxy’s website, jacksongalaxy.com.

Here’s hoping the two of you will help each other through this rough patch and have a lovely, long life together.

Good luck and God bless,

The Reverend