Dear Reverend,
I recently met someone. After a few dates, I spent the night at his house. When I went to take a shower, I asked if he had a washcloth I could use, and he told me that he didn’t own any. Is it just me or is that gross?
Lou Fah (woman, 52)
Dear Lou Fah,
Many years ago, my parents went on a vacation to Ireland. When they got back, I thought I would hear all about their adventures. Instead, the first thing my mother said to me was: “They didn’t have any washcloths over there.” She whispered like it was some sort of international scandal.
While there don’t seem to be any solid scientific statistics about worldwide washcloth use, some surveys suggest that 68 percent of Americans do not use one. They may use some other bathing implement, or they may just soap up their hands to do the dirty work. And that’s OK.
Washcloths can be beneficial in exfoliating the skin, removing dirt and oil, and stimulating circulation. However, some people find them rough and irritating. The big con for washcloths is that they can easily become a breeding ground for bacteria and need to be laundered often.
Not owning a washcloth shouldn’t be a huge red flag on this fella. It’s just a personal hygiene choice. You can certainly get clean without using one. Consider how often you wash your hands without a washcloth, yet you know they’re clean.
If you plan on spending the night and showering at his house again, be prepared. Just as you would bring your own toothbrush, pack a washcloth. Bring it in a plastic bag or other waterproof container so you can take it back home with you.
Another idea: Take a shower together and try turning him on to the wonders of washclothery.
Good luck and God bless,
The Reverend
This article appears in Sep 10-16 2025.