Daryl Rabidoux Suffers Stroke

1. Wow, this is so upsetting. I was just telling Dan about how Mike and Daryl were two of the first people I met when I moved to Burlington. I was unemployed and hanging out at the now defunct Euro Gourmet every day (where my roommate Amanda worked), and they were in the process of building their studio. They both donated tons of time – both in advice and in actual labor – to the start of Wyld Stallions Records. I am forever grateful and encourage everyone to join me in donating whatever you can to Daryl’s expenses.

2. If you honestly expect people to donate their hard-earned money to this man, you are living a joke. Daryl was never anything but rude and bitchy to me and to most people I know. He is a self-centered pig who treats women like garbage, his friends like an old rug, and his sideburns with an unnecessary amount of care. When I heard that he was in the hospital, I wondered if karma could actually be real. When I heard that other people had heard that he was in the hospital, most of what I was hearing was phrases like: “He deserved it.” “He was always such an ___hole.” “You know, when he moved away and I didn’t have to talk to him anymore, I was glad.” Not everyone hated Daryl– He has a legion of be-hoodied morons that kiss his feet and have wet dreams about Rocketsled, all of whom can probably be found sweating with worry at his bedside. Maybe this time in a body cast will allow Daryl to think about how he’s treated people and how he should change that in the future. I certainly hope he’s thinking about it when he’s working off his appropriately damning hospital bills.

3. yeah have you seen his myspace? he doesn’t have time for our needs [see status], so why should we care about his? the only cool thing about him is that he likes queensryche.

4. Someone please tell me how this is such a sad or terrible thing? Did the brain injury deflate his ego or disable his uncanny ability to treat people like garbage? If so, this was a blessing for everyone (including Daryl).Give your money to a better cause, like the Humane Society or some other deserving organization.

5. You miserable, cowardly, pathetic excuses for human garbage. Whatever your personal feelings for Daryl, wishing this sort of harm on anyone is simply disgusting. You should be ashamed — perhaps that’s why you were afraid to comment using your real names?

6. What Dan said.

7. @Dan and CaseyPerhaps you should re-read what they wrote. They don’t appear to be wishing harm on anyone. They are just pointing out that Daryl did a lot of bad things to people and that it was not necessarily unexpected that something bad would fall upon him at some point. It’s nature’s way of retribution.Personally, I don’t care either way. I know he did alot of bad (and some might characterize it as sleazy) stuff, but stuff does happen. Does anyone know why there isn’t auto insurance covering at least a part of the medical expenses?

8. Dan nailed it.

9. Dan, are you talking about Daryl when you write “miserable, cowardly, pathetic excuses for human garbage”? If you are, then I agree with you.Daryl is actually lucky that a car did this to him and not a person.

10. “Daryl is actually lucky that a car did this to him and not a person.”– Yeah, he is.Dan, how about you and all your dumb friends stop wasting your/our time trying to extort money out of all the people that supposedly love Daryl so much and go down there and be with him like a real friend? Casey, how about you carpool? Daryl can pay for his own mistakes, like not having health care. Stop defending this jerk and start worrying about yourself and your terrible bands. I’ll say this much about the dink: He made you all sound WAY better than you actually are. Run to him, Dan. Run to him.

11. i always used to have a crush on him, until i met him. now i’m glad i don’t have to push his wheelchair around.

12. Not only are you people totally fucked in the head, but you are complete fucking cowards. Back up your idiotic and tasteless drivel with some fucking names, you textbook internet pussies.

13. I was gonna fly down, actually. . .

14. No one is extorting money from you. If you don’t care to give, don’t. It’s that simple. And if I’m wasting your time by trying to help a musician in need, please stop reading my blog. Like right now.I’m not defending Daryl’s actions. He obviously rubbed some folks the wrong way during his time here. But who hasn’t? Frankly, his personal life is none of my business. Though I don’t know him well, my experiences with him over the years have always been pleasant. But after reading this vitriolic sniping, I can hardly blame Daryl for treating you like the schmucks you obviously are.

15. You haters are totally fucked in the head.*IF* someone crossed me the wrong way, I might laugh if their car got dinged, or their parking tickets caught up with them, or if they got splashed by a truck, shit like that.He’s in *the hospital* with punctured lungs, head trauma, torn organs, etc.You don’t have to give money, obviously, or like him, but kicking someone when they’re down is very, very low.

16. yikes! all around!I’m sorry to hear Daryl was hurt at all. I hope he’s okay and has a speedy recovery.thanks for letting us know, Dan – this is this first I’d heard of it. I hope all of you drive safe, or walk or ride safe if you don’t drive.i’ll send some positive energy in his direction.

17. Dan, thanks for posting this.

18. These rude comments are especially disturbing to Daryl’s family members. Please keep your negative comments to yourself. Try to put yourself in our shoes, if you were reading these comments about someone you loved? How would you feel? Especially when this person is in the hospital, no one deserves that and you should not be wishing harm or unfortune to anyone. Thank you to Mike and Dan and all of his friends who are standing by him and wishing him well.

19. Wow! I kept reading these awful comments thinking that I was missing some in-joke from Daryl’s hip friends…how disturbing and disappointing to realize how sick and hateful (not to mention cowardly) some folks are! Seriously, keep it to yourselves, assholes.

20. I can’t help but wonder if it’s just one negative person writing multiple comments (it’s really easy to post here)… as many years as I’ve been in this town I’ve never heard of anyone with a serious problem with Daryl… actually quite the opposite. And to any family members that might be reading… believe me there’s a ton of people here that love Daryl, appreciate all the hard work he’s done, and he’s in our thoughts.

21. Is there any option of deleting the offending comments?

22. It’s sad that you have turned a public forum into a place that people can’t actually express their feelings. If you wanted a place where friends and family of Daryl could talk about the situation, DON’T PUT IT ON A WEBSITE FOR A WIDELY CIRCULATED, FREE PAPER! Make it private!

23. Carl, anyone is free to express their opinions and feelings here, whatever they may be — which is why the offending comments will not be removed. Sorry, Jen. However, with that freedom comes a responsibility to conduct one’s self in a respectful manner — you know, like one would in public — as well as the understanding that you are entering a forum in which your comments become fodder for everyone else who chooses to read and respond. “Townie” et al. let their opinions be known — their anonymity speaking volumes about their character and offering very little weight to their claims, frankly — and the rest of this community responded. That’s how it works.

24. Totally stunned, not just by the news, but by the negative creeps who crawled out to spew their anonymous bile here. Totally classless, and if karma truly exists, they’ll be on the receiving end of some nasty stuff very soon.Then again, if karmic balance did exist, this wouldn’t have happened to Daryl, as he’s always been hands down one of the nicest guys I know. Hopefully his recovery will be speedy and full.

25. Wow. I’m pretty floored by some of the negativity here. It really amazes me that some people are so full of themselves that they would use a forum like this to spew such negative bile. His fucking family read this. Way to pile on the hurt. I was never all that close to Daryl, but when i did interact with him, he was ALWAYS a good dude to me. I suspect that this is ONE person with multiple fake names who obviously felt slighted by Daryl at some point. Anyway, I’ve been rallying troops in boston to help out because regardless of what happened to this one angry girl, he’s still a fellow musician in a really difficult situation. Stay classy, Burlington.

26. Unbelievable. I was never a close friend to Daryl – didn’t travel in the same circles, but we always ran into each other, when he came down to Pure Pop or randomly at shows or people’s houses and he was always a pleasant witty guy. That being said, two things.1. Even if he is a dickhead, who isn’t now and then and who are you people to say he’s deserving of this kind of serious physical trauma? What because once he snubbed your overly self-concerned-ass? Or maybe, gasp – he jilted a lover once? Cmon.2. this is to “HannaJ” and “Nature’s way of Retribution” are you fucking kidding me? Nature getting retribution? Nature doesn’t have emotions – nature is indifferent, stop anthropomorphizing and at the very least just own up to being a giant human asshole, who gets some kind of sick joy out of seeing other human beings in pain. That at least makes some sense.that being said, get well Daryl.

27. there’s not a lot i can say that hasn’t already been said by the friends and family offering positive words- daryl has never been anything but a great friend to me, and i was really glad to see him today, staying positive and cracking jokes as usual.as for those who have nothing but negativity to offer, i have this to say: nobody, even your worst enemy, deserves so much hate directed their way in a time like this. it’s embarrassing to see anyone sinking to that level, especially in reference to a guy like daryl.thanks for posting this, dan, and thanks for handling the comments in the way that you have. be goodzc

28. I’ve got to weigh in on this. Shame on you, Towne, Second, Tiddly, Jarret. You guys are absolute gutless, slimy, petty little punks. I know Daryl in passing. We are not tight, he may not know my name, but he would know me and be RESPECTFUL to me if I was to have a life altering event like this. This sad event speaks to how fuc$ed up the healh care situation is in this country. “Here but for the grace of God, Go I” is apt in this case. I have excellent employer provided heath care, but that wasn’t always the case. It is not so easy as to say “he should have bought health care”. First of all (no family) my health care costs my employer approx. $750 per month. You want to cough that up per Month, bozo? Didn’t think so, douchebag. Those “low” premium policies ($200-350 per month) are hardly worth the paper they are printed on. Even then, in this case, Daryl would be out serious money before insurance would even begin to cover expenses. Secondly, as a young guy, trying to carve out a new business for himself, he’s probably has little wiggle room to outlay that kind of money per month. It’s a national disgrace that there are an obsence, offensive number (45 MILLIOM +!) of AMERICAINS who don’t have heath coverage(even the most basic care) when this criminal administration give huge tax breaks hand over fist to the like of the megarich and vabid losers like paris hilton, while someone like daryl has a catostrophic,chance even that will sattle himn with massive dept for years (if not decades) to come. As a verteran of the 101st Infantry, I am so ashamed of this country. Pray for a better day.As for you chickenshit posters, If Daryl was a close friend of mine, I’d be absoultely apeshit over you’respineless snipes at a dude in his time of need. You’ve got no heart and no brass. Put you name behind such bile. My name is Brad Feeley, Hardore Vermont and Burlington born to the bone. I put my name behind what I’ve got the termerity to say, You can find me easy. Man up, grow up.What, You weren’t back-slpaping pals with Daryl, SO that makes him an asshole? when I was coming up (and even not that long ago), I’d get all bent out of shape if I meet or worked with someone who didn’t think I was the bee’s knees. I’ve got news for you, Jack. In Life,Not everyone is going to kiss you ass and call it ice cream. So get over yourself. Even a sweetheart like my self(;-)) isn’t universally loved. You think an artistic type like Daryl is going to wipe you’re backside because you’re a starfucker? Please. Maybe you’re just an peckerhead and daryl saw that. Then again, maybe some people don’t like others.Casey and Dan will back me up on this one. For as much as we love Burlington, there is a ton of petty, mean-spirited, clowns in that town who can’t wait to tear you new one at the first chance. Frankly Casey, I’m surprized it took so long for you to move on down the line.

29. If anyone reading this has been in contact with Daryl PLEASE DO NOT MENTION THIS BLOG TO HIM! I am quite sure that myself, and the rest of Daryl’s family and friends, do not want Daryl to catch wind of this. I visit Daryl everyday and get a sense of Daryl’s optimism. He’s in a lot of pain and highly medicated and this kind of shit can only hurt is recovery. Thanks to everyone supporting him and donating. Zack Martin.

30. Jesus Christ. You know, I’ve actually been nostalgic for Burlington lately, even thinking about some of the folks who’ve popped into this very thread (hi guys). But the fact that there are people that lived around Darryl that are so myopic, so removed from reality that they can look at a horrible tragic accident and say it’s some kind of karmic retribution… well, I bring news…There’s a whole goddamn world out there. You can talk your small town small talk and have your little indignation, your tiny little anonymous self-righteousness on your local alt weekly’s blog page, but take a step back, even a small one, and even might you see how bitter, pathetic and tiny you look. Who cares if Darryl was a jerk to you? From the senseless hate and the nerve you’re displaying here, I’d say you deserved it.I don’t have $money$, but I donated what I could – we need some kind of universal health care, and someone I know and respect got severely and unexpectedly hurt and isn’t covered. It didn’t take much thought at all. I may be broke, but the state covers me if I wind up in a hospital. Get well, Darryl, and MFK and I’ll keep spreading the word in Boston.Like Brad said, I’ll always love Burlington, and it’s a beautiful place. But some people don’t realize they’re far, far worse than the townies they make fun of. Have fun growing old in your bubble… and while I don’t wish you any harm, I certainly hope that if you wind up in Darryl’s shoes, you reap exactly what you’ve sown.

31. I knew Darryl a long time ago. I worked with him on Rocketsled and early Cancer Conspiracy projects. He was never anything less than a great guy, totally professional, talented, and considerate. I wish him a speedy recovery so he can get back to making great sounding records. There’s plenty of hate in the world, but not nearly enough good music.Get well soon!

32. I wish the very best to Darryl in his recovery; to the cretinous schmucks who’ve posted here, I send out a hearty go fuck yourselves.

33. How typical burlington to use someone’s misfortune as an opportunity to talk shit about someone and hear your own dumb voice blab on about something you have no business speaking on. you don’t like daryl? great! don’t donate money then, but do not be some weak-ass and get on seven days website to bitch about how poor you got ignored by people cooler than your dumb self. you people are SELFISH, MISERABLE, BORED,UNINTELLIGENT, HEARTLESS WORMS!!! SLIMEY LITTLE DIRTY BITCHES! AND, if you feel so strongly about this don’t be a pussy and hide behind some stupid username.

34. i agree with most of whats been said, wishing people harm is dumb, its silly and it shouldnt make you feel better. however, i dont agree with this ‘How typical burlington to use someone’s misfortune as an opportunity to talk shit…’ lets not try to condemn a few spammers comments by stereotyping my little city, please.

35. Daryl’s an awesome guy and I was really upset when I found out about his accident and lack of health insurance. I met him years ago when he worked at 242 Main. I know the negative comments have been addressed pretty thoroughly, but one more thing: maybe the reason why Daryl has so many “be-hoodied morons” “kissing his feet” is because he spent so much time in Burlington making sure that people of all ages have access to rock music, and became an inspiration for dozens of young local musicians who wanted to get out and tour and record and see shows. I think that’s a great thing.

36. fair enough JBL. angry at the comments. close to home for me. its my small town too. i get it. xo

37. this is not about us. it’s about daryl. let’s get him what he needs.

38. Working with Daryl on my band’s first album was an amazing experience. It was my first time ever recording in a studio and we were on a really tight budget monetarily and time wise- Strangeways was moving immediately after the session. After setting up the mics and headphone mixes the first night we came in and recorded all ten tracks the next day from 10 a.m. to 3 a.m. Then, Daryl mixed the entire album the next day from 9 a.m. to 4 a.m. He put in many hours beyond our original agreement without any complaints or additional charges to see the project to it’s fruition. I barley knew him at all at that point, and because he moved shortly after, I still barely know him, yet I consider him a great friend- to me and to the arts.

39. Hi, Seven Days Online Editor chiming in here.I saw the request above to remove the negative comments.Honestly, I’m torn about this. By the time I realized this was happening, so many people had already chimed in and addressed the comments. If we removed the thoughtless negative things that were said, we’d have to remove the rest of them too, because the discussion wouldn’t make sense.While I’m appalled at the meanspirited, anonymous comments, I’m reluctant to remove this whole discussion. Please email me to let me know what you think about this. I’m at cathy@sevendaysvt.com.

40. I visited Daryl, in the hospital, today and asked him how he was doing. He responded “I’m like Michael Jackson… I’m off the wall”. I had no fucking clue what he was talking about. Upon clarifying he told me that the doctors removed him from the machine, on the wall, that was inflating his lungs. Hardy fucking har… A terrible joke but great news. This was a goal that needed to be reached in order for him to be released. It essentially means that he is now breathing under his own power and should be out of hospital within the next few days, barring any unseen issues with his latest ex-rays. That is the latest. He is extremely amazed, and appreciative, by every ones support and contributions to him. He will still need recovery time, in or out of the hospital, which means that he still needs your help. The hospital stay may soon be over but the bills will linger on and will be a small fortune. Give what you can. Thanks to everyone for their support. Zack Martin

41. Thanks to all for the kind words. I am home now and will be making regular returns to the hospital for follow ups. All seems well aside from a (possible) enlarged aorta. But I can walk and talk and make funny faces, so there’s at least a career in the circus for me. Zack thought I should know about this blog since I was doing better and would stumble on it eventually. My immediate response was “how many years ago was it that I was acting like an pretentious asshole? I thought I got over that like 5-6 years ago” But alas, what you do in your early/mid 20’s will define you in certain circles, and your real friends will forgive, and the rest will forget about you. If I were to make an educated guess as to the few neg posts, I could confidently put a name and face on all of them, so no need for a witch hunt. All of them, I believe, are within the 23-27 year old age group. Roughly the same age I was making some stupid, and admittedly questionable decisions of my own that may have been hurtful and poorly thought out. I would apologize, but sometimes it’s too late. And other times it’s just not worth it. We’ll call it asshole “even”. I, Daryl Rabidoux, committed the following heinous acts sometime between 1998-2004.-Was in a “popular” burlington band, thought I was hot shit. Realized after a few years I was being “that guy” made a change that apparently, a couple people and their circle of friends didn’t notice. My friends noticed. They still make fun of me for it. -Worked several retail jobs that were fun, and when stupid questions were asked, was encouraged to let the customer know the question was in fact stupid. Thus making me seem like a cocky asshole. Like you wouldn’t do the same thing if you were told you could.-Drank lots of beer, resulting in having the balls to talk to girls, who sometimes thought I was funny, or an asshole. -Put baked beans on my neighbors porch. Won $100 dollars.-Had girlfriends that I really liked, and stayed with for several years, and am to this day very good friends with. In between, I hung out with friends and girls. Went home with said friends and girls. 99 times out of 100 to pass out on their couch. Be creative with that other 1 percent. I think that clears up the first few posts. I may not be right on this one, but for the gentleman who said I was lucky a car did this and not a person……my heinous crime was-banning certain individuals from a public teen center because of an escalating incident between two people and their friends involving threats and violence towards each other. Threats/violence included baseball bats and firearms. People witnessing violence between the 2 parties involving baseball bats and witnesses letting me know they have seen certain individuals carrying firearms. And that they wouldn’t feel safe if that element were to ever enter said teen center. Sorry, I like the punk rock kids. And firearms and violence don’t belong around kids. Kind of a no brainer if you ask me. Again, thank you all for posting, reposting and getting the word out. I appreciate the kind words and support and it does make a difference. d.

42. Daryl lives!I’m really fucking glad to see you’re getting better.

43. my darly. and you’ve never been cool in my book. see you soon. xoxo

44. Daryl is a true warrior. We love him and thank him for all of the insight and help he has given us thus far. If we had a million bucks, the first person we would give it to would be Daryl. Much Love-Irepress

45. well put Daryl – Glad to hear you’re doing well. Take care.

46. Darnell! Horrible news! I’m just glad you didn’t think I wrote any of the hateful comments seeing as though one time when we worked together I asked you to “step outside!” If I had wrote any of the hateful comments, I’d want to take the credit for it!Obviously, those people who wrote the comments thinking you “deserve it” didn’t know about the time all your equipment was stolen! As if that wasn’t enough…..Hell of a way to quite smoking, Darnell!Anyway, I wish you a swift recovery & watch some Who videos!

47. Daryl is a great dude. Fuck all who made negative remarks. I’ve known him for 10 years and he’s never been anything but awesome. Grow some fucking balls and post your real names.

48. Daryl, that’s all I needed to hear. I appreciate your apology, and hope your path to recovery is short. I only wish I had seen this kinder side of you before your injury occurred. I’m glad that you have made the decision to recognize the need for humility and to keep your mouth shut when the time is right. Maybe I wouldn’t give him my million dollars, and maybe I haven’t known him for ten years, but after that humble and informational posting, I would probably buy him a beer if he indeed needed one.Good on you, dude– I tip my hat and step aside.

49. I just caught wind of what happened to Daryl; living in Brooklyn keeps me a bit too isolated from happenings up North. Anyway, it’s never too late to offer good wishes and to combat the karmic poo.1) Daryl, I miss you and was shocked to hear about this. I am happy to hear you’re doing better, but I hope you’ll be even better soon. 2) I’m sorry about the shaving cream incident 13-14 years back. It wasn’t my idea. 3) All you haters: I hope Daryl forces you all to listen to old Wrench tapes as retribution. -Josh Levy

50. I too am very late to this party, and it seems pretty much everything there was to be said has been said. Josh even took my Wrench reference, so now I’ve really got nothing. I’ll just say that Daryl was always a swell guy, even when he wouldn’t play guitar in my less cool band. Get better man.Oh, and neither donation link is working currently. Anyone have a direct link?

51. Daryl-I couldn’t believe when I saw The “Daryl Rabidoux Benefit” for this Friday. I am living in New Hampshire and was looking for someplace to take my husband in Vermont. I am so sorry to hear about what you have been through. I can still remember our little symbol-DK-. It sounds like you made a career out of what you have always loved-music. I hope it continues to go well for you and you have a speedy recovery. I probably knew you long before any of those people who slammed you on this site-all I can say is you were one of the nicest, most sincere guys I have known! Take Care-Kari Swett

52. This really sucks. I hadn’t heard much about Daryl’s condition recently & was hoping he was on the road to recovery. Best wishes to him, his friends & family; our thoughts are with all of you.

53. Really terrible news. I’ll be there Friday in support. Daryl and family, i have nothing but sympathy, my heart goes out to you.:(

54. This is horrible news. I hope Daryl gets better quick.

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