Dear Reverend,
I’ve been hooking up with this guy for a couple of months — nothing serious; just having a little fun. The sex is great, but he does something I think is pretty weird: He leaves his glasses on. Should I bring it up or turn a blind eye?
Itza Blurr (nonbinary, 26)
Dear Itza Blurr,
I can’t find any data about the percentage of bespectacled people who keep their glasses on during sex, but people wear glasses for a reason. I assume that your guy keeps them on to see what he’s doing. It would really stink if you asked him to take them off and the quality of your sexy times went right out the window. Something to keep in mind!
When a person wears glasses all the time, they practically become a facial feature. He may like the way he looks in them or simply forget that he’s wearing them. As a very nearsighted person, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve searched for my glasses only to realize they were already on my face.
If you want to avoid a discussion, you could try wordlessly removing his glasses in a sexy manner as a sort of foreplay. But since the two of you have been rolling around naked together, talking about glasses shouldn’t be a big stretch. It’d be a bit rude to call out his behavior as weird, so perhaps you could broach the subject by saying you’re worried about breaking his specs in the heat of the moment.
When something bugs you, it’s usually best to get it out in the open — but you need to keep the big picture in focus. I’d file this problem in the same category as being bothered by a partner who wears socks during sex. Sure, it might seem a little weird, but if everything else is great, why let an accessory spoil the fun?
Good luck and God bless,
The Reverend
This article appears in The Cartoon Issue 2025.