
Shawn Greywood Hill, 71, died in Bennington, Vt., in MissionCare nursing home after an extended decline in health. Shawn was preceded in death by his parents, Grace Louise Anthony and Delmer James Hill.
Shawn was born in Burlington, Vt., at Mary Fletcher Hospital, the first son of Grace Louise Anthony and Delmer James Hill. Born prematurely, he stopped breathing while still in the hospital, leading to an anoxic brain injury and lifelong disabilities, including deafness.
His mother described Shawn as a very happy infant and toddler, but this changed when he began preschool, where he quickly understood that other children were able to speak and hear, while he could not. He learned that he was in some ways a Stranger in a Strange Land, different in ability and disability from the people around him, and it took him many years to achieve some peace with this. In an era of limited knowledge, funding and services, his parents spent substantial time and money during his early years pursuing assessments and answers on how to support Shawn — to little effect and to their lifelong sorrow.
Shawn lived at home until near adolescence, when he moved to the first of several institutions in Michigan. In these institutions Shawn experienced and survived complex trauma, including significant physical and emotional abuse. In 1993, Shawn returned to Vermont, where he was supported by Howard Center and Champlain Community Services. He lived for over 20 years with the Clarke family, who successfully supported Shawn in his transition from the institutional world to the Vermont community. Our thanks to the Clarkes for being another family to Shawn in these years.
During his more recent time at Pennington House, Howard Center staff committed to supporting Shawn in facilitated communication. For the first time in his life, at age 65, Shawn’s communication with the world moved beyond gestures and simple vocalizations to reading and writing words through both a keyboard and whiteboards. It does not seem possible to overstate the positive effect of this more sophisticated communication on Shawn and his relationship with the world, including the people in it. While we are saddened that our parents never knew that Shawn could communicate using written words, knowing their persistent belief that Shawn had more cognitive ability than numerous assessments and professionals had suggested, this was also an uplifting confirmation of their belief.
In July 2025, as his health deteriorated, Shawn moved to MissionCare nursing facility in Bennington. In one of his last communications with staff there, when asked what he wanted staff to know about him, he responded, “Tell them I’m smart,” a glimpse into his life and his character.
Shawn liked ice cream, ice cream sundaes, “pop,” coffee, doughnuts, watching people cook, visiting family, cooking shows, “F Troop,” “Hogan’s Heroes,” ice cream, Thanksgiving, watching community events, women and ice cream. He did not like living in an institution, being dropped off at an institution, waiting for a ride, physical exertion or raw carrots. People have told us that they appreciated his sense of humor, his gentleness and looking people in the eye. Some people did not believe that he was deaf (despite tests that definitively found no auditory response) because of his attention to and understanding of other people.
Shawn is survived by his brother Bard and family (of Richmond, Vt.); brother Scot and family; stepmother, Pat; sister Della and family; sister Laura and family; sister Rachael and family; and extended family members across the United States. Shawn’s life and spirit will be recognized in family events at our father’s grave in South Hero, Vt., as well as at our mother’s grave in North Adams, Mass. Their lifelong love for him, and his lifelong love for them, was profound and abiding.
In lieu of flowers, please embrace a family member, and consider making some positive impact on the life of a person with a disability.
So if you’re walkin’ down the street sometime
And spot some hollow, ancient eyes
Please don’t just pass ’em by and stare
As if you didn’t care.
Say, “Hello in there, hello.”
— from “Hello in There” by John Prine
This article appears in The Winter Preview Issue 2025.

Beautifully written. Thank you for sharing Shawn’s life and spirit. He was a very special and Intelligent, caring person who rose to and through many challenges. May we continue to learn from him, and discover how to be more caring and inclusive human beings.
My heart is absolutely broken to hear the news about the passing of Shawn. Caring for Shawn was so much more than a job; it was a privilege that shaped a significant chapter of my life. Shawn was a gentle soul, and his sense of humor could light up even the darkest days. Looking forward to spending time with him and cherishing conversations with him, feeling genuinely enriched by Shawn presence. Shawn touched my life deeply, and the thought of not seeing him again is truly painful. Shawn was a remarkable person who taught so much about grace and resilience. Sharing in your grief and sending heartfelt love and support to you all. Shawn will forever hold a special place in my heart. With deepest, most profound sympathy!
Bard, this is the most beautiful obituary I have ever read. I am speechless and in tears. Mary
Bard, I agree with Mary! Also I love this picture of Shawn. He looks like an angel. 💕
My deepest sympathies to you all.
Dear Bard, your love and understanding of your brother was evident as you told his stories about him and his life,I remember getting the pleasure of meeting him,
My sincere condolences to you and your family.
May his spirit be dancing in the cosmos .
I always knew that Shawn was lucky to have such an awesome family. Now I know that his family were also really lucky to have Shawn. I really hope there is ice cream wherever Shawn is.
Your missive is the most beautiful story and our hearts are with you at this difficult time. Deep condolences and sending *lots* of love to you and your family ❣️ Carolyn & Dennis
This is the most beautiful obituary I have ever read. It brought me to tears several times.
Bard such a beautiful tribute to your brother. Your final wish is my life command. Thank you.
My thoughts are with you, Bard and Scot, and with your loving families . . . rest in peace, Shawn.
Bard, what a beautiful glimpse into the life of your brother and your love for him. My condolences.
Vèry nicely done.
Shawn you will truly be missed! Just being able to bring a smile to your face and enjoy your cooking show with you went a long way for the Howard Staff. We love you Shawn and may God keep you!
I agree with everyone who is commented so far about how beautifully written and moving this story about Shawn’s life is. And there is a moment of humor with Shawn’s love of ice cream contrasted with his dislike of “raw carrots”.
What a lovely tribute. Sending love and light to Bard and family during this sad time of loss.
Bard, this is such a sweet tribute to your brother. My warmest and most sincere condolences to you and your family.
Every life is valuable, Every life has meaning, Every soul deserves grace. Sincere condolences to Bard, Scot, Della, Laura and Rachel and the many others who loved Shawn. Thank you for the beautiful obituary.